Sexy Tip #10 For Moms

Use what you've got.

Let's face it, not many of us Moms have tons of money to throw around. These days some of us hardly have enough to pay the bills, and put food on the table with the way things have been going with the economy.

SO...use what you've got.

Sexy doesn't have to mean spending all kinds of money on fancy lingerie that you'll only wear once, it can be as simply as throwing on a T-shirt or apron on, and a pair of heels, and "sweeping" the kitchen floor. Add bending over discretely infront of your partner, and a quick grazing of your fingers up his arm to his lips, and you have created sparks of romance.

You might be surprised at how for some men, it takes very little to turn them on. And...for others, well maybe you need to use your imagination, but not your walet.


Sincerely,

Mama of Romance
xoxo

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Junk in My Trunk

As I bent over to pick up some dirty clothes off of the floor, and head toward the laundry room with them, I catch my husband staring at me.

Of all days, today I look...well, like a slob.

And, I know it.

I don't often just not care what I look like, but every rare occasion I just don't have any gusto left to fiddle with my hair, or get all dressed up.

Besides, I had in mind to tackle a million things around the house, all of which would render me even more dirty, and slobbish looking.

Hubbie is still staring. He doesn't really look like he's happy, sad, mad, annoyed. Just a blank expression.

Straight away, I think to myself, oh gosh he must think I'm gross. Or fat. One or the other.

"What are you looking at?" I ask as he continues to stare.

He says, "Just at the junk in your trunk."

WHAT? Okay, so he does think I'm fat! I think to myself.

"What do you mean, the junk in my trunk?" I ask, now slightly perturbed.

"You know, the junk in your trunk." He repeats.

This conversation is going no where fast.

"Alright, are you saying that I'm fat? Cause you know, if you had 3 kids in 4 years I don't think you'd be looking like a hot skinny super model either." I protest.

He bows his head, and chuckles. "No, no, I think you're pretty, I'm admiring the junk in your trunk."

This still isn't making me feel any better.

"Alright, so you like that my butt is huge, thanks, thanks a lot. That makes me feel much better."

I don't normally get caught up in these "Am I fat? moments."

"No, I don't think you're fat, I'm admiring your junk - you know your boobs, and your snatch." He says.

I burst out laughing.

What!? I can't believe he just said snatch.

"Dear, junk in someones trunk, that means their big butt." I attempt to clarify.

"No, it means privates." He argues.

"No...." and we have a little friendly argument about the meaning of "Junk in my trunk."

When I think about it, the song "I like big butts" comes to mind.

Who knows though with all this lingo that changes practically daily.

I should start a poll for everyone to vote. Does "junk in your trunk" mean the fat in your butt, or your private parts? You tell me, apparently I'm out of the loop, but thankful that my husband doesn't think that I have a huge butt - to my knowledge anyhow.

Sincerely,

Mama of Romance
xoxo

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Sexy Tip #9 For Moms

Call the one you love.

Pick up the phone, and give them a ring. Surprise them, and talk in a sexy voice.

For many of us, it's been ages since we talk on the phone like we did when we were dating. Now you live together, and in the instance that you're not together, when one is at work, the average conversation has something to do with "Honey, could you pick up ____ before you come home?" Or, "What do you mean that bill didn't get paid!"

While normal, everyday conversations are great, and are essential to keeping the lines of communication open, throwing in a sexy conversation every once, and a while will help to keep the romance alive.

Surprise your partner, by simply calling to say something sweet, or sexy.

Sincerely,

Mama of Romance
xoxo

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Taking a Cue From Halle

Here's what 42 year-old Halle Berry, new Mom of Nahla (born in March) has to say after being deamed the "Sexiest Woman Alive" by Esquire Magazine....

"Sexiness is a state of mind - a comfortable state of being," she says. "It's about loving yourself in your most unlovable moments."

I think that all of us Moms should take a cue from Halle Berry. By all means, I have not got a body like Halle Berry, or any other superstar, as I'm certain that many of us everyday Moms do not sport the superstar physique, but, I totally agree with her.

That even at the most "unlovable moments," if you love yourself, you are capable of being sexy - whether you know it, or not.

I bow down to Halle for getting her great body back in shape in such a speedy manner, and having such kind words to say. If she can do it, then we all can too.


Sincerely,

Mama of Romance
xoxo

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Naughty Wednesday

I think at one point or another we all say something that isn't quite appropriate during sex, and it tends to quickly jeopardize or partner's, and our mood.

One time, my husband and I were laying in bed, and were talking about our family, whether we wanted to have more kids, or not, and the conversation led to vasectomies. Well, that word alone is enough for my husband to shrivel up into a little wet noodle.

Other such topics that are on our "Not During Sex List" including talking about his parents, our kids, anything gross (poopy diapers, throw up, etc), or talking about things that are completely irrelevant (even talking about day-to-day things for too long can flatten anyones libido - especially if you're talking about things that stress you out like money.)

What's a "no-no" for you?

Also, if you are a WOMAN......please comment on the next post to let me know what your biggest turn-on is (I'm trying to compile a Top 10 Turn-Ons for Women List.) If you participate, feel free to link your blog/website to me through my auto-link.

And, you can also take the Sex Poll on the sidebar!

Thanks a lot everyone.

Sincerely,

Mama of Romance
xoxo

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Dish Em' Up - The Top 10 Turn-Ons For Women

Not too long ago, I posted The Top 10 Turn-Ons For Men....well Ladies, now it's our turn!

Here's what MY list of turn-ons looks like (please share yours by commenting below!)

1. Romantic - this one is obvious (especially if you read my blog frequently!) Got to have the romance. Sweet words, kind thoughts, surprises, and of course being a good old fashioned gentleman.

2. Caring - In spades. Have the ability to be caring, loving, protective, responsible, and look after your lady, and family like they are no other.

3. Intelligent - He has to be able to carry a good conversation, have good values, morals, know how to do things, stand up for himself, and speak his mind.

4. Funny - It's no fun spending all your time with a big ol' sack of potatoes that just sits there. Better one that makes you laugh, is excited, energetic, and fun.

5. Understanding - I don't care what anyone says; women are more complicated than men. And, it takes an undertanding fellow to not only be happy around, but to enjoy his lovely, intricate lady. This includes being a good listener. As women, don't we all just want to be heard, and to be understood.

6. Respectful - There's nothing worse than a man that has no respect for women. He needs to not only speak respectfully, but also act in a respectful manner. One that would never in his life think of hurting the woman he's with, or anyone for that matter.

7. Has to have a cute butt - There is nothing quite like a cute butt, especially one that he can flaunt by wearing sexy boxer briefs, or nice jeans. Butt, naked is best, tehee.

8. Muscles - Especially in the arms, chest, and stomach. If you have them great, if you don't..hey at least it gives you motivation to work on them.)

9. Motivation - You can call this ambition, or hard-working, or all of these. I know so many women who always complain that their husbands are lazy, or won't do what they say they are going to do. It is such a turn on to see a man with a drive, including a good sex drive.

10. Affirmation - I'm all about the positive. Anyone is a turn off when all they do is grumble, and complain all of the time. It's nice to be around a person with a postive outlook on life, your relationship, and on you.

This is MY list, but I cannot wait to hear what YOU have to say!

So, what turns YOU on!???!

What ever it is, I'll be posting it as soon as the results are in.

Thanks in advance you Sexy Ladies!

Sincerely,

Mama of Romance
xoxo

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Monday's Muse

Heather over at Maternal Spark has started a new meme called Monday's Muse. Her blog, Maternal Spark is a great blog about creativity, and motherhood. I thought that I would give Monday's Muse a try, of course with a little twist of my own. Thanks Heather for the idea!

Since we're talking about muses, those things, or people that motivate us to be creative - that drive us to shine, I thought that I would bring up the subject of how to be creative in bed.

Ever since I became a Mom, to be honest, sex has become routine, structured, quick, and the same day after day - for the most part.

You're tired, and so when and if you're going to have sex with your partner, you're looking to do it, and get it done so you can just shut your eyes and go to sleep. Unless you're the type that likes to have sex while you sleep - just kidding.

You do what works, and what works is what you're capable of, and what's comfortable for you as well.

For me, between being pregnant, and having a baby 3 times in the past 4 years, sex has been slightly awkward, and even sometimes painful at times, and has become very hum-drum...well boring at times.

It's like anything; you do something repetitively for long enough, and it can get boring. But if it's what works, what's a girl to do?

Well, I challenge myself, and all other Moms out there today to step outside their comfort zone, and to do something that is different, that might require a little more energy, and might be just a bit uncomfortable.

I'm not going to go all Kama-Sutra on you, but I am going to challenge you to figure something out on your own. Quite frankly I don't want to get into all the graphic details, I'm a Mom for Pete's Sake, and my kids are here with me!

So, if you're really unsure as to what to do, Google it.

To no one's surprise, the internet is full of all kinds of sexual content from pornography, to strange, and warped things that you'd rather pretend you know nothing about.

If you're timid, try searching for something like "research Kama Sutra" - and hopefully you won't see anything too graphic, or intimidating.

But, if you do - you're a Mom, and I'm sure that means that at some point in your life, albeit extreme circumstances, that you've had sex a time or two.

We as Moms go above and beyond for our children, day in and day out. For once - at least, try going above and beyond for your partner, and remind them why it is that you are still so in love with them, after all you've been through.

Today, make your partner, the one that you love so much your muse! Good luck to making their heads spin, and shocking yourself a little too.

Feel free to link to this post, whether you are going to partake in this challenge, or not.

Sincerely,

Mama of Romance
xoxo

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I'm Not Anti-Man

Shaking my head, as I write these words, trying to shake off all the melodrama I've received for not talking about my husband like he is a God.

I want to make it abundantly clear that I love my husband. If I never had anything to complain about in my life, in my marriage, about my husband, and myself - well then everything would be perfect. If everything was perfect, then life would be boring.

I am not perfect. And, although I may speak my mind, and occasionally step on a few people's toes, I think that's what makes me human.

Here are 50 things that I LOVE about my husband, just in case anyone is wondering, including him if I ever love him at all!

1. He is caring.

2. He is a great father.

3. I love the way he looks like a drooly puppy when he sleeps.

4. He is the handsomest man I've ever laid eyes on, I still think that after 5 years of marriage, 7 years together, and 3 kids.

5. He's generous, and never leaves me feeling like I miss out.

6. I can tell him anything, and blog about anything, do anything, and he loves me still.

7. I love that he loves me no matter what.

8. I love his bum.

9. He gives amazing massages.

10. He works so hard for his family, and looks after all of us very well.

11. I love his cuddles, he's like a giant teddy bear.

12. He makes me laugh.

13. I love how at the end of the day, he always asks "Is there anything I can do for you."

14. He makes great pancakes.

15. He is my very best friend.

16. I love how he is meticulous like a footery old man.

17. I admire his strength, both physical, and how he is always there for me, like a rock.

18. I love that we dream together.

19. I love his eyes. They are gorgeous.

20. How he likes to hold me in his arms each morning before he gets out of bed.

21. How when he kisses me, he sticks his tongue out - just a little.

22. I love that he would do ANYTHING for me, and his children.

23. I love that he is reliable.

24. Responsible.

25. Easy going.

26. How he just likes to chill sometimes.

27. I love his smile, his lips are so nice.

28. That he is so masculine.

29. That he gets embarrassed when he toots, and denies being the cause of the smell. I even love that he smells so bad!

30. I love his hugs.

31. I love that sometimes he'll just make cookies or rice krispie squares out of the blue.

32. That he is sensitive.

33. I love that he never gives up, and tries so hard.

34. I love that he is the best role model I could ask for my children.

35. I love that he still asks me to dance when he hears our song on the radio.

36. I even love that he is still a bit of a pervert, okay he is a pervert! I'm grateful that he is attracted to me after I've had 3 kids.

37. He's like a cat. He likes to be scratched, and rubbed.

38. He can do anything. He is Mr. Fix It. Mr. Build It.

39. I love that he often thinks that he is perfect, or that he has a better way of doing things, always. He's self-assured, confident.

40. I love that he is passionate about me, and that his passion has never dwindled.

41. I love that he likes to sit and watch movies with me sometimes.

42. That he is fun.

43. Young at heart.

44. I love having tickle fights with him. And I'm not sure why, but I enjoy pinching his nipples.

45. I love that he can still pick me up, and carry me any where.

46. I love his devotion to his work, and his family.

47. I love that he is so mature, and yet can act like a kid at the drop of a hat.

48. That he has a positive outlook on life.

49. That he is so ambitious.

50. I love everything about him!

Much of what is written here at Sex Diaries of a Mom is dedicated to my loving husband - I love you.

Sincerely,

Mama of Romance
xoxo

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Feeling Beautiful - It's Up To You

In spite of the fact that your partner may think that you're beautiful, it's so important for you to feel that you're beautiful as well.

Many women, especially Moms are posed with a challenge after giving birth, of trying to re-establish a healthy relationship with their own bodies again, and to feel truly beautiful.

Sadly, some women don't even feel beautiful to begin with, before they have kids, let alone after.

Regardless, we as Women, and Moms are all faced with this challenge at some point in our lives.

I can remember the day I got home from the hospital after giving birth to my first baby. I was just getting undressed, and about to get into my pajamas when I caught a glimpse of my body in the bedroom mirror.

The horrific image that I saw will forever remain etched in my brain

The skin of my belly drooped to my groin. If I had hair there before, it was hidden undercover of the fold of my stretched belly skin like the saggy chin of a bull dog.

My thighs, and hips emitted bright purple streaks like I got run over by a train on my way home from the hospital.

And, what was worse was that my belly when looking sideways, okay even frontwards, still looked like it had a baby inside of it.

Overall, it didn't help that I was 60 pounds heavier than I had been pre-baby, and that I would still be sporting maternity clothes for months to come.

That, to me was a pivotal point in my life, when I felt that I was at my ugliest.

Three babies later, and still I find it hard to look into the mirror right after giving birth. It wasn't until after my third that I decided to face my fear.

I made the decision to love myself, period.

Standing there in front of that same mirror - with my body looking honestly worse than after the first time that I gave birth, I promised myself I would never again call myself "fat," or "ugly."

I wouldn't move from that spot in my bedroom until I decided that amidst the bulge, the stretch marks, and the jelly-jiggling belly that I would love myself. "As Is."

I don't feel comfortable sporting a garter belt, stockings, thongs, or anything uncomfortably revealing any more (most of the time). Not because I don't look hot to my husband - laugh, laugh, but because it doesn't feel good to me.

The sexy, beautiful me that used to exist before kids, has not disappeared, but rather has just changed - just a bit.

I've come to realize that feeling beautiful is a matter of feeling comfortable, and happy with myself.

And, to my rejoice, my husband finds me even more attractive in the plain white tee shirt, or his boxers and a tank, or even in nothing at all.

Because I feel like I am beautiful, it shines through.

It's so much easier to enjoy sex, to be passionate, and to love making love when you feel beautiful.

Being a woman is an incredibly powerful thing.

The curves, the soft skin, the feminine features.

No reason why being a Mom should prevent you from batting your lashes, or bending so eloquently in front of your partner to pick something off the floor. Or even, reaching over him while he's seated to try to reach for something. All in a flirtatious way.

Females flirt to find a partner. Then comes baby. Task accomplished. And, the flirting stops.

Moms, I say flirt on!

I'm no where near having a head that's about to pop off because of how hot I think I am, but I am making steps forward in loving my body again.

No more beating myself up over it.

Giving birth, having a baby, motherhood - it's all a beautiful thing.

Mother's are beautiful.

Decide you are beautiful, it's up to you.

Sincerely,

Mama of Romance
xoxo

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2 In The Bed And The Little One Said, Roll Over

Moms can all certainly attest to trying to be intimate with their partner, and just as things are finally getting steamy, being interrupted by a little person who on cue comes into the room.

I can remember laying in bed kissing, when all of a sudden right behind my head, I heard:

"Mommy, I had a bed dream."

I almost peed the bed, and bit off my husband's lip.

What's worse though, is when the kids come into our room, walk right up to the bed, and stand there quietly.

Call me crazy, but I have visions of the Chucky movie in my head - I think it has something to do with the height of my kids, and seeing their silhouette in the dark...man I am such a scaredy cat.

My husband, was probably thinking, "Go play with the scary monster in your bedroom that you dreamt about, cause Mom and I are busy."

But, when my kids have a bad dream, I like to cuddle with them for a few minutes, say goodnight, and tuck them back into their own beds.

With 3 kids, between baby crying, 2 year-old wandering around the house aimlessly, and 4 year-old's bad dreams, sometimes being intimate is next to impossible.

What's more, is how it makes a Mom feel.

I know that when I'm laying in bed with my husband, I'm often peering over his shoulder out into the hallway, waiting for someone to appear. In the back of my mind, all I can think of is, "Are we going to have a 2 or 3-foot tall audience tonight, should I prepare myself for being startled?"

My husband will sometimes turn to me, and ask "What are you thinking about?" Or, "Why are you not into this?"

He doesn't understand that I don't want to scar my children by having them catch us having sex. And, that wondering if I'm going to be caught off guard by a mini human being is enough to have a Mom feeling tense.

I don't like the thought of having spectators, especially my children. It has me cringing, and feeling like I ought to do whatever I can to prevent it from happening.

So what do you do?

You certainly can't predict how kids are going to act. I get no warning most of the time when my kids come into our room because they creep so quietly around - in fact, sometimes I wonder how they can navigate so quietly around in the pitch dark.

I also don't like to close the door because, then I really can't hear them, and worry that they might try to get open the gate at the top of our stairs, and fall down.

Our solution...

Either we make love downstairs, where we can hear the pitter patter of little feet walking around, or we leave our door open with the lights turned off.

I prefer the first, because then at least I can hear them coming before I see them.

But, my guard will never be down, and I'm not ready to have the "birds and the bees" talk with my 4 year-old just yet.

So until our kids know that they have to knock before coming into our room, and I can finally feel comfortable shutting our door, hubbie is going to have to accept that I'm not going to be playing the role of Passionate, Sex Goddess Woman, but rather Mom who can still be sexy, and yes does have her mind on a few other things at the same time.

Better than a blow up doll anyway, right?


Sincerely,

Mama of Romance
xoxo

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Sexy Tip #6 For Moms

A sexy little note.

Nothing is more intriguing, romantic, and surprising as finding a sexy little note tucked some where for your partner to find.

I can remember my absolute favourite one. I was taking a long deserved shower, and the kids were all in bed.

At the end of my shower, I drew the curtain open to grab my towel, and low and behold on the toilet seat was a little note.
It read:

"You are the love of my life, a wonderful wife, and mother, you mean so much to me, please come and meet me upstairs."

Now, this little note however little, certainly held an immense meaning, and had me melting inside. My partner took the time, and the thought to surprise me, to be romantic, and to say the words too often that go unsaid.

When I went upstairs, I walked into a room lit with candles, and strawberries, and my wonderful husband who for tonight was sweeping me off of my feet.

All it takes is a few words. Romantic, or sexy.

I know a little note is a great way for surprising my husband, when I might write something like:

“You are so hot, and I want to rip all of your clothes off, and make you feel good.”

It drives him wild.

I think that writing notes, is something that has been lost in time, is so easy, and is a great way to portray whatever it is that you want to say, with a lot of impact.


Sincerely,

Mama of Romance
xoxo

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