What Part of “Now” Don’t You Understand?

It’s been a long , long day.

Okay, that’s putting it mildly. We’re now going on day 5 without taking naps in my household, and I am about to lose my mind.

My 4 and 2 year-old absolutely refused to take a nap, again today.

The result - the following phrases have begun to lose their meaning:

Go to sleep.
Stop doing that.
Get back into bed.
Please be quiet, everyone’s trying to sleep.

Any Mom knows what the repercusions are for a child who is still little when they don’t sleep.

I’ve listened to endless whining, crying, fighting, and general misbehaving for the past week.

Because of the lack of sleep, my children are acting completely out of character, and are reeking havoc in the household.

Mommy…is about to lose it!

So, as you can imagine, when my husband walks through the door, I am so ready to hand over the kids, and say “Take them, they are all yours, I need to have some peace!”

Unfortunately I can’t do that. It’s a busy season for my husband, and he’s working long hours, and sometimes into the night.

But tonight, brings me to the end of my rope.

I thought about it all day, worked everything out in my head as to how I would have to remedy the no nap situation that is the underlying reason that I am feeling so stressed.

I have decided that my 2, and 4 year-old can absolutely no longer share a room, and we need to put a door on my 2 year-olds room so that I can close it at nap time to avoid all the distractions of what lies outside his room; like toys, and trouble.

The moment my husband walked through the door this evening, I explained what was happening, and how I felt. I explained that I really needed him. I needed him to stop what he was doing, and help me by finally hanging the door on our son’s room, and moving a bed into another room so that we can separate the pair of them.

I said, and these are my exact words: “Honey, I love you. I know you are really busy. But - I need you. I am about to lose it. The kids are not listening to me, and they can no longer stay in the same room. They have been jumping on the beds, tearing thins apart, and reeking havoc all over the house while they are supposed to be sleeping. And, because they don’t sleep they are miserable for the rest of the day. I need you to hang a door, and help move a bed. I’m going to bath the kids now, and get them ready for bed while you hang the door.”

My husband says, “yeah, sure.”

I start to run the bath. He is sitting in the office, on the phone. I kindly walk over to him.

“Honey, I need you to hang that door - NOW. The boys are almost ready to get into bed.”

He says, as he covers up the receiver of the phone, “Yeah, okay, I’ll do it.”

He continues to sit there, listening to someone else. Can he not hear me? Does he not get it? The kids are falling over tired, and need to go to sleep, and the sleeping arragements aren't working!

I have the kids ready for bed. It’s bedtime, and he still hasn’t got started doing the job that I asked him to do.

I am trying not to freak right out.

“Honey, when I said NOW, I meant, like right NOW. Could you please do it.”

He starts to get upset with me. “I said I would already.” As he rolls his eyes.

Oh no, he did not just do that. That is it.

So I put the kids to bed, as usual. And, I am trying not to absolutely lose it. From the outside in, I think I’m handling it all very well, reminding myself just to breath, and think about how this will pass.

But, you know. Tonight, I know that my husband is going to ask me something.

A question that I dispise being asked on a good day. I must point out that I normally am not the kind of person who believes in keeping score, but - I am also not the kind of person that likes to feel taken advantage of.

I know that he’s going to ask “Honey, are we going to have sex tonight?”

And, do you know what I'm want to say?

“What? Now?” As I roll over, cloe my eyes, and mumble, “oh yah, sure,” and go to sleep.

Sincerely,

Mama of Romance
xoxo

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