Thursday, August 7, 2008

What's Your Sex Schedule Like?

I don't know about you, but my schedule is bulging at it's seams, and I have a hard time squeezing anything in.

Wake to the fighting of 4 and 2 year-old.
Baby is crying in their crib.
Get out of bed, and pee, baby in my lap.
Change a poopy diaper.
Change a bigger poopy diaper.
Make breakfast.
Get kids to table.
Step in puppy poo.
Wash my foot.
Sit at the table at last to eat - or not.
Clean up spilled juice.
Remind kids to eat their breakfast.
Feed the baby.
Clear the table.
Eat a cold breakfast.
Do the dishes.
Do another load of laundry.
Blog, maybe.
Catch 2 year-old who is headed outside.
Phone rings.
Talk and pick up toys.
Signal 4 year-old to stop screaming.
Kiss 2 year-old better who just banged heads with 4 year-old.
Hug 4 year-old.
Set up an activity for the kids to do.
Pick up crying baby.
Switch laundry.
Make lunch, while carrying baby.
Ask kids to set the table.
Ask again.
Burn lunch.
Try again.
Feed the baby....

Okay, you get the point.

So it's supper time, and you haven't sat down to do anything other than take a quick bite of food, if you are lucky, or to try to vent through blogging at your computer.

That moment of "me time" at your computer by the way only lasts a few moments before you are beckoned again by a 2 foot tall, babbling version of your husband.

So you manage to make it through dinner, the clean up, and finally get the kids to bed.

It's like 9 o'clock, and you feel like you were just out all night partying, and forgot that you had to work the next morning when you're husband tries to put a move on you in bed.

Little does he know, that you are aching from head to toe, haven't stopped all day, and just want to fall into your comfy bed, and drift off to Lala Land.

So maybe you make love, because you know that then you can get some sleep, after all you've had people placing demands on you all day, you just want for your husband not to be wanting something from you too.

What ever happened to me? You might think. When do I get a turn to want?

If you're reading this, and you think it's sad, well it is. It most certainly always isn't the case, and isn't a reflection of EVERYONE's life. But, for a lot of busy stay at home, and working Moms, it is a reality, however grim it may seem.

So what is your sex schedule like?

Mine is generally between the minutes of 9:30-9:35pm. I'm nearly in tears, laughing as I type these numbers! Minus the odd day that I'm too exhausted, sick, or have my period.

I laugh because I remember what it was like before the kids, before the wedding, it was more like 9am-9pm, or whenever the mood struck.

My husband, and I talk about this from time to time, and remember the way things were. We both want to make time for each other, but on a day-to-day basis it just isn't always possible.

There are simply no more time slots available. Our sex life has become a hotel with little, or no vacancy.

I always say that I feel more excited about being intimate when I'm not so tired, but that's only in the morning, or early afternoon.

That isn't going to happen. So what to do?

Plan for a babysitter. Let the house become a mess for a day so you're not so tired. Have your husband watch the kids so you can sleep in.

Just think, maybe ALL of your kids will nap at the exact same time, and your husband might possibly pull up in the driveway at that exact moment, with a bouquet of flowers, some massage oil, and a box of chocolates!

I wish.



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LdybugSammi said...

wait, did I just write this blog?? Are you in my head? I totally understand what you're saying!

Anonymous said...

I love your blog! Hubby and I have had this same conversation oh so many times about making time for sex. We are on a roll though this week and I do mean literally whooohooo! Please feel free to check out my blog and see my thirtysomething ramblings about life, marriage, hubby rants and raves LOL. I found your blog on mom bloggers. http://thirtysomethingreality.blogspot

The Mom said...

Thank you so much for the comments! That's great that you can relate, I'm sure many Moms can...and I think that's why I'm doing this - because so many of us don't have a spot to talk about these kinds of things.

mylitlbratz said...

I can definitely relate to this post.I have eight children and finding time for a little romance and sex was sometime impossible when they were young. Suffice to say we had to get very creative. My youngest will be six in September and I'm happy to say that although my house is still busy we're able to be a lot more spontaneous when it comes to sex.