Saturday, September 13, 2008

Going on a Date

Before marriage, my husband and I went on a date at least once a week.

After marriage, we went maybe once a month.

Now that we have 3 little children, it's maybe once a year.

I can't even remember the last time that we went on an official date. But, I was "asked out" just yesterday! I'm so excited.

Tomorrow, hubbie and I will be dropping the kids off at their Grandma's and Grandpa's house, and we're gone for the day.

The plan is to go out for lunch, then an afternoon movie, and a walk.

My husbands Grandmother and I talk a lot, and I think a lot of her.

She has always said to me that "It's so important that you still have time together as a couple."

This coming from a widowed, Mom of 4 who I don't think ever went on a date while married in her life - to my knowledge. Humbled, I take her words seriously to heart, because I believe that she stresses the importance of dating because she never got to, and now she no longer can.

How often do you go out on a date? (An official one - where you arrange for a babysitter, get dressed up, and go out to do something together that you don't normally do, alone.)

How would you feel if you didn't get to truly enjoy life with your partner, and then it was too late?



Sincerely,

Mama of Romance
xoxo

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13 comments:

Petra said...

This is so true! My hubby and I TRY to go out at least once a month, but sometimes it doesn't happen. But you have to make the effort!

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The Mom said...

My parents are AWESOME and we do this about once a week! It really keeps you connected and we both look forward to it each week!

LdybugSammi said...

I'm jealous. I dont get a date for a year. I miss my husband :(

Cheryl said...

Dating is essential in any relationship. Adult time is of primary importance. Makes you a better parent, a better partner and a saner person.
I have often thought after being single for 7 years "what if I grow old alone with no partner?". Too many married people take their spouse for granted.
Date, date, date....and watch that sex drive rev up and your children will see your attitudes change. We all think we have "no" time...but life goes by so fast....take advantage.

Geesh I sound like Dr. Phil.

Mrs. Buck said...

I agree, its so important to make time for yourselves to keep the romance alive - not just the sex part, but the connection that comes from spending time together just the 2 of you doing something fun!

Chantele said...

My hubby and I go out once a week - even after 15 years of marriage! We love each other and enjoy spending every ounce of quality time that we get to spend together.

Keely said...

We manage it about once every 4-6 weeks. Sometimes it's just a matinee movie, but we try...we should probably try harder!

Sweet Mummy said...

For a few years we had a date night regularly once a week. Sometimes it would go 2 weeks, but at least 2 times a month. We haven't been out for a while (just a function of our current transition stage). But even if we can't get 'out' for a date, we date at home. Sit on the porch with a cup of coffee and snuggle. Or rent a movie and do popcorn and root beer floats while we watch. We both feel very strongly about having US time, since we still want to be US when our kids leave home (years from now) and we always want to be best friends. We both recognize that it takes time to do that, and we're committed to making it happen as much as possible.

Jen said...

We've actually been going out quite a few times lately. It's so nice an we really need it! Friday is our 10th anniversary and we're going out for dinner and drinks. =)

Leah said...

We have a date night IN almost once a week. We put the kids to bed, both try to look a little nice for each other, make something yummy for dinner, watch a home repair/decorating show and have a glass of wine. Then we get it on ;) Actually going OUT together is usually about every other month.

journey2learn said...

We try to go out on a date at least once a month. Our last one, just last night...Those moments together are priceless and we try to not take them for granted.

The Mom said...

Petra...Thank you so much Petra! You're awesome!

The Mom...That must be so nice, I wish my in-laws were that great!

Samantha...I feel for you! Hang in there!

Cheryl...Thanks Cheryl, I mean Mrs. Phil.

Mrs. Buck...Thank you for your input, I appreciate it!

Chantele...Now that's longevity - good for you both! I hope that my hubbie and I can be like that after 15 years!

Keely...At least you both try! Thanks for your comment.

Sweet Mummy...That is so great, making the best of things, and having the devotion for one another.

Jen...Congrats Jen on your anniversary! I hope you both enjoy it!

Leah...Way to enjoy what you have, and still have fun!

Journey2Learn...That's great! Thanks for your input!

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