Tuesday, November 25, 2008

Pregnant Or Not

With all 3 of our other children, I can honestly say that we've never had trouble conceiving, with the labour, or the delivery. I know I am an extremely blessed woman when it comes to having children.

Now, we've been missing having sex every once, and a while for whatever reason. Mainly because I'm exhausted, and get to bed first. I'm assuming this has to do with the fact that I already have 3 small children who tire me out. We have put in the effort to have sex at different times of the day though, when I'm not so tired, but it doesn't seem to be cutting it - because there's nothing growing inside my tummy right now that I know of other than gas. That was too much information, I know, I'm sorry.

Anyhow, I know it's only been about 2 months since we've started trying, and that's nothing compared to what other women go through on their road to pregnancy, so I am not complaining.

What I was wondering however is, whether or not it's true that you can only get pregnant on about 2 days in a given month? If that's the case, I just hope that those 2 days don't land when I'm too tired, and sound asleep. I sure would like to pinpoint a time down.

Conceiving a child in my opinion shouldn't be like orchestrating a play, it shouldn't be like rocket science, however because of what lies down the road for us in about 9 months, we either have to get pregnant right now, or wait a while. I wonder if any other women, and their husbands have tried planning it down to a fine science as well? I certainly feel a little strange about doing so.

By the by, I wish that my desire to have a baby matched my desire to have sex! It's like my heart wants another little one so badly, but my brain is saying "ah well maybe not tonight." One would think that the desire to conceive would have me acting like a bunny on Viagra - but no.


Mama of Romance

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Kelly said...

I hear ya, Mama!!! Getting pregnant is a pain sometimes. The thought of sex sometimes repulses me and I would be quite satisfied with a turkey baster and a sample from The Hub. But alas, sex it is.

Anyway, it's true that you're only fertile 2 days out of your cycle, but the little guys can last up to 72 hours inside you. So having sex every other day is more effective than every day. And having sex a day or two before you ovulate is more effective than having sex on the same day as ovulation.

Trust me, it worked for me. We had sex on 10/31 and I ovulated on 11/2 (I know b/c it's painful when I ovulate). We had a fight on the day I ovulated so we didn't have sex but I still ended up getting a positive home pregnancy test. HORRAY!!!

Good luck!

Lori of I'm no super Mom said...

I agree with every other day. My doctor put me on the schedule every other day from day 10 to day 16 and I got pregnant the 1st month after we had been trying our way for 9 months. Good luck!

A.V.A said...

I think you have a 5 day window, 2-3 days before O day and 2-3 days after. Good luck mama!!!

Kristy said...

I diddn't plan my pregnancy...In fact I took the approach.."Whatever happens, Happens!" It's too much work to plan it out, and no fun that way for me...I'd rather just be pleasantly surprised..you know? That's just me!

Dee said...

I didnt even post about me trying b/c I was heart broken that it was taking so long! With Evan...we got pregnant the second I went off of the pill. With this one( I JUST found out I'm pregnant) it took 4 months of trying. Its so dissapointing! And yes..there are only a couple of day's where you're REALLY fertile!

We also got pregnant the month where we were doing it every other day! Before that we were doing it sporadically !

Tiffany said...

We know the exact day that we concieved our son. We planned him to a T. We're currently pregnant with our 2nd child and it was more of a, if it happens, it happens type of thing, but we also both remember the day it happened on. Happened very fast for both pregnancies, this one however happened like days after we had moved from our old house!

sandi said...

I know what you mean about trying, I hate to try. Just have sex and if it happens great, if it doesn't, then it WILL happen right when you don't want it to. That is life, planning a baby has never worked for me!
Even with all the adoptions, I can't even time them right! They always come at the worse times, and then looking back..It all works out!

I am praying for you! but, my prayers never work, so make sure somebody else is praying too!

Mariah said...

Good Luck! I never had any problems getting pregnant, so I guess I don't understand, but I wish you well. This is insane mama, will you please update your blogroll, I took the other blog down. Thanks

alana said...

Unfortunately, (well for you…lucky for me lol) after you ovulate your egg only stays fertile for up to one day. Sperm can live in your body for up to two days though so that helps to offset the small window.

Two months isn’t enough time to be concerned, but there is a small chance you’re not ovulating. Your doctor will be able to tell if you get worried.

sweetlexie520 said...

Hugs to you, Mama!

It took us 2 years of trying to get our little miracle, even though we were staying vigilant and knew when the best times to try were. It sucked when people said "It'll happen when you're not thinking about it" but that's what happened, lol! We did the dirty a few days after I thought I would have O'd (we were on a work trip in New Orleans, so I wasn't keeping track of my days), but 3 weeks later I got my positive test back. :)

Check out the book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" It gets you real info on your cycle and how to know when you're fertile, so you don't feel pressured to do anything when you're not!

Petra a.k.a The Wise (*Young*) Mommy said...

Well, I have the whole conception thing down to a science because I have fertility issues and had to chart and go on meds to get pregnant with my daughter, so if you have ANY questions, just let me know.

It is hard to "plan" it, but it does highly up your odds of conceiving if you know when your fertile days are, and it is only a few days of the month.

Good luck and let me know if you want any info!

NHmommy said...

I sooo know what you're going through. I have been using ovulation test strips now for 5 days, nothing yet. My cycle is wacky..I am hoping I can actually feel when I ovulate..sometimes I get pain. As for having sex..haha..good luck!!

Misty said...

i have to say sex repulses me, before i had my daughter i couldnt get enough of it. but i just dont think im atracted to him any more. we may have sex once a month. i want another baby, i agree with another comment. id be happy with a turkey baster and a donation from him. lol.

Heather said...

I'm at the opposite end of the whole shebang. I want this baby out and know that having sex is the only thing I can do to speed it up but the idea just makes me shudder. I'm swollen and tired and sore and I know that he isn't attracted to me right now so I have to try REALLY hard to get him interested. Blech! Labor shouldn't sound like more fun than sex.

Straight to Your Hart said...

I hope your desire to have another child will be fullfilled...fingers crossed!

Reading your last posts..Dry spell for us..almost 6 months. Good reason..Pregnant on total bed rest. Had 4 miscarriages prior..hmmm...

I just have to remember that one brain is funtioning ALL the TIME and the other only when needed. It's differentiating between the 2 my hubby has a HARD time with.. tehe!!

Chapter 6???

Maomie said...

You have a very nice blog. Will keep reading. Have been planning to conceive for the past year but am not successful yet. Kind of disappointed. But will keep trying anyway.

LostIt said...

Mans viable sperm regenerates every 36 hours! Hooray for useless facts from 10th grade biology! I have conceived 4 times(2 girls/2 miscarriages) I'm going with most everyone else here! Do it every 36 hours or so :) I will be joining the ranks of trying again in January! Good Luck to you!

Chrissy said...

We tried for a while too. Only my husband didn't know we were trying for the 1st 11 months. We had agreed that I wouldn't tell him when I off the pill. He wanted to be surprised. Plus we thought that if he didn't know, it wouldn't put the pressure on. We tried for about 16 months and I miscarried. I had been tracking my O. I tried the strips you pee on, and I never detected it. I ended up buying one that you lick, and that worked. If you're interested, I got that on target.com. Don't know if they'll still have it. I was writing my schedule down. After the miscarriage, I stopped doing that. I still wanted a baby, but I was tried of thinking and of the pressure. 2 months after the miscarriage, I got pregnant. We had a boy almost 7 months ago.
So... different strokes for different folks.
I wish you a speedy conception.

Tena said...

it is very true, only a small window each month, anywhere from 2-4 days. I hope you get the results you want soon!!
{{{ gentle hugs }}}